9 counterintuitive ideas that will help you master your relationships

I’ve been screwing up in relationships for years.

Lots of heartache, self-doubt, and emotional bruising later, I’ve emerged more aware and far better able to manage relationships with the right people.

Platonic and romantic.

Here are some of the more counterintuitive lessons I’ve learned over the years:

1. Often, the best way to get someone to do something …